Seven
serious spiritual wounds from sexual intercourse outside of marriage
(or in an evil and unlawful mut'ah, 'urfi
or misyah
arrangement - explanation at foot of page)
'Abstain from fleshy lusts which war
against the soul' (1 Peter 2.11)
Satan
presents the bait, but hides the hook!
What foolish Western policy makers deliberately ignore to their own
perdition. The systematic State neglect and vandalism of the sacred
covenant of marriage will rank as one of the most irresponsible and
injurious acts of any government in the whole of human history. It has
permanently scarred and spoiled society's foundation, as even a Sunday
School child could foresee.
The chief engineers and ideologues behind these policies will have
eternity to eat the fruits of their wickedness.
'Marriage is honourable in all, and
the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.'
- Defilement of God's
glory and the shattering of His benevolent commandments.
If
this were the only consequence of sex outside of marriage it alone would
justify complete avoidance. How can we insult and
injure the high
kindness of the the most High God by basely ignoring His will, without
suffering serious consequences? Why do we continually provoke His
fierce jealousy over something He hates? This is the chief and the
heart evil of all sin - it wounds friendship with God.
'Let no man deceive you with vain words:
for because of these things comes the wrath of God upon the children of
disobedience.'
King
David after committing adultery with Bathsheba, murdering her husband, betraying
his own household, and setting an appalling
example to his whole nation cried out when first convicted by the Holy
Spirit, 'Against Thee and Thee
only have I sinned'. Joseph when faced with the persistent
seduction of his master's wife, protested, 'How then can I do this great wickedness,
and sin against God?' It is a sin which greatly provokes God's
anger and curse, condemns its perpetrator to separation from God. Only
the Divine gift of repentance and the ordained blood payment can wash
the punishment and power of this sin away, but even then its injurious
consequences endure (as for David).
- Emotional and physical
bonding with future life partner scarred and weakened.
The
Bible teaches that sex even of the most casual and transitory nature
forges deep emotional bonds.
In an astonishing allusion to the first
description of marriage, the Holy Spirit applies the same strong terms
to a once off sexual union.
'What?
know you not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two,
says he, shall be one flesh.'
The
strength and nature of this
bond has been confirmed by a number of social and psychological
studies.
Entrance into such a powerful bond before marriage with a
partner other than the lifemate injures and scars that future
relationship.
- Coarsening and
degrading of the beauty and strength of whole spirit.
It is not difficult to see the
coarsening and debasing effects of habitual use of this sin in those
who practice it.
This is a frequent theme of the prophets in exposing
idolatry, using adultery or fornication as a simile.
Ezekiel describes habitual
abusers of this command
as those 'whose flesh is as the flesh
of asses, and whose issue is like the issue of horses.'
Hosea says, 'Fornication and wine
and new wine take away
the heart'.
Paul writes, 'For he that sows to
his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption'.
- Cripples self control
and poisons other virtues
Once
the walls of the city of the soul are breached, Satan easily captures
its citadel. The scripture describes those driven and controlled by
their lusts. Those who concede to passion become more self willed,
restless, moody, and stubborn, they are described as
'unstable as
water'. The affections become poorer and often are strangely
misfocussed on minor issues.
Spiritual
jewels like humility, gentleness, meekness are
stripped away and spoilt.
Like a venomous snakebite.
Once
enticed by sin, the soul becomes more credulous, more easily deceived.
Spiritual insight and perception is lost, the soul left in darkness and
confusion.
'Such
is the way of an adulterous woman; she eats, and wipes her mouth, and
says, I have done no wickedness.'
'O Lord,
to us belongs confusion of face, to our kings, to our princes, and to
our fathers, because we have sinned against thee.'
- Bitterness and
hardness of heart, no real satisfaction of spirit, a loss of
contentment and peace.
Solomon
writes, 'For the lips of a strange
woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil: but her
end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword. Her feet go down
to death; her steps take hold on hell.'
Ezekiel's
chapter 16 is a tragic case study in the insatiable and progressively
enslaving character of sexual lusts.
Isaiah and Paul warn us,
'But the wicked are like the
troubled sea,
when it cannot rest, whose waters cast up mire and dirt.
There is no peace, saith my God, to the
wicked'
- Fosters ill discipline and dysharmony
at home, rots and defiles society.
Homebuilding
is a rare and precious skill not easily or lightly gained in this vile,
self-pampering and dangerous age,
'The
aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness,
not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their
husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at
home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not
blasphemed.'
'Be not deceived; God
is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap.
For he
that sows to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that
sows to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.'
Who can understand his errors?
cleanse thou me from secret faults.
Keep
back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have
dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from
the great transgression.
Let the words of my
mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O
LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
(Psalm 19.12-4)
Why temporary marriages, of
both Sunni but especially the Shi'a kind, are deeply offensive to God
- a cloak for fornication.
Marriage is a solemn covenant entered into by both parties - Malachi
2.14-15a
'...Wherefore? Because the LORD hath
been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou
hast dealt treacherously:
yet is she thy companion, and the
wife of thy covenant.
And did not he make one? ...'
The marriage covenant is frequently used by God as an illustration and
image of His relationship with all His chosen people.
Ezek.16.8
'Now when I passed by thee, and
looked upon thee, behold, thy time was the time of love; and I spread
my skirt over thee, and covered thy nakedness:
yea, I sware unto thee, and entered
into a covenant with thee, saith the Lord GOD, and thou becamest mine.'
A covenant necessarily involves an oath of imprecation for its
violation.
It is an extremely serious matter to violate a covenant - and usually
results in a Divine penalty of death.
So in the same passage, the prophet after listing the exasperating
apostasy of the Bride and her severe
punishment, writes, v.59:
'For thus saith the Lord GOD; I will
even deal with thee as thou hast done, which hast despised the oath in
breaking the covenant.'
Other passages also spell out the serious and usually fatal
consequences of violating a covenant:
'And I will give the men that have
transgressed my covenant, which have not performed the words of the
covenant which they had made before me, when they cut the calf in
twain,
and passed between the parts thereof,
[a means commonly employed to show the nature of the penalty of
violating it]
The princes of Judah, and the princes
of Jerusalem, the eunuchs, and the priests, and all the people of the
land, which passed between the parts of the calf;
I will even give them into the hand
of their enemies, and into the hand of them that seek their life:
and their dead bodies shall be for
meat unto the fowls of the heaven, and to the beasts of the earth.' Jer.
34.18-20
'And I will bring a sword upon you,
that shall avenge the quarrel of my covenant:
.... and ye shall be delivered into
the hand of the enemy.' Lev. 26.59
God hates the violation of marriage covenants:
'For the LORD, the God of Israel,
saith that he hates putting away [divorce] : for one covers injustice
with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts:
therefore take heed to your spirit,
that ye deal not treacherously.' Mal.2.16
He forbids a remarriage after divorce to the original partner, as 'an abomination' Deut.24.4 - the
same word is used for idols, incest, bestiality and homosexuality.
Christ warned that divorce amongst believers for reasons
other than fornication (serious sexual deviation) is adultery.
These temporary and secret forms of marriage are nothing more than a
cloak for sin and uncleanness,
and in the sight of God's law are extra marital
cohabitation (Zina).
